I Got Married!

In lieu of writing and posting anything since October, I have been busy planning a wedding. I’ll save my elope-you-fools-don’t-fall-into-the-wedding-trap rant blog for another time, since I’m writing to celebrate and share some pics.

Quick recap of the day: best day of my life! I spent most of it trying not to cry, which is probably why I am not smiling in 80% of the candid pictures of me during the ceremony. I knew if I lost it, I’d never get it back, so I had to keep myself together. It feels like a total dream looking back at these pictures. I got to finally marry the best life-partner and husband a girl could ask for, have all of my family and friends in one place, and then dance and party and have a heck of a good time. I have never felt so loved and humbled. I’m so thankful for all the people that came and shared the day with us that I can’t thank them all, plus it’s not like I won an Oscar so I’m going to keep this short, but S/O to Cree who put literally everything back together after it poured sheets and buckets of rain 30 minutes before go-time. And Emily. And Griffin. And Matt. And everyone else. I JUST LOVE EVERYBODY, YOU GUYS!

We were praying about when to get married for months, and then in October, we knew God wanted us to get married this summer. It was crystal clear. But we were terrified: it was way sooner than we had ever thought — we were planning a wedding 2 months before we got engaged in December. Everything was rushed. Looking back, I couldn’t be more glad that we got married when we did. People say that when you make plans, God laughs. It’s true, but here’s something even more true: His timing was so perfect.

My beautiful and wonderful friend Abby Caldwell captured these amazing pictures that will thankfully last longer than my recollection of the day. There are lots, so if you want the whole bunch, the link is here and the password is whippleworld. (Photobooth pictures are also online and HILARIOUS and the password is paige.) Below are just a few of my faves. I hope you find yourself in these and look back on the day as happily as I do. XOXO!

“Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm. For love is as strong as death, its jealousy as enduring as the grave. Love flashes like fire, the brightest kind of flame.”
Song of Solomon 8:6

 

As if that wasn’t enough, we also had our crazy-talented friend Coty Nix on hand to capture some of the day, which included Abby singing during the ceremony (did I mention that she’s wonder woman?) Some of his pics are below, and they are amazeballs. I’m so thankful for him! Coty, you rock.

Sex, Love, and Marriage

Some light topics to discuss at your next dinner party, eh?

Or never. Never at all. We tend to shy away from topics like these (in general small-talk conversations, at least) because they’re personal. Sex, love, and marriage are all major, life changing subjects: they reflect the most intimate parts of your life. So it makes perfect sense that we hesitate to share our thoughts on the matter, much less our own personal experiences. I did exactly that. Until I signed up for Honors Seminar 370: Becoming Sexually Healthy.

There were great reviews about the professor on ratemyprofessor.com, students said it was a good class, and I needed those three honors credits. So, indeed, I signed up for a sex class at Towson University. Right now, you’re probably doing what I did before class started– reducing it to that tiny box of “physical sex.” The class has been so much more than just that (thank goodness…it can be preeetty uncomfortable talking about some of the topics we discussed– I won’t even go there.)

We’ve talked about sex, love, and marriage, along with parenting, body image, gender roles, and more. It’s been enlightening, to put it in a broad term. Luckily, I’ve had a wonderful counterpart for more than 4 years now, so the lessons I’m learning about relationships and, most importantly, marriage, are not falling on deaf ears.

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Am I Ready to be a Wife?

I think we all know the answer to that question.

I read a post from a fellow blogger, Natasha Craig, about what she gave up when she got married, and it was wonderful. I’m not going to give you a spoiler, because I think you should read it. She got married when she was 19, a year younger than I am now. (Yeah, sorry, the blog is still called Nineteen Going on Ninety because Twenty Going on Ninety isn’t nearly as catchy.) Of course, people told her not to and told her all the horror stories, how it would end in divorce, etc, etc.Image

She talks about how she did give up a lot, and what it meant to her. My favorite quote was: “I went home on June 8th in someone else’s car, to sleep in someone else’s bed, and breathe someone else’s air. It would never, from that moment on, be just ‘me’ anymore.” She says that her marriage brings her so much happiness that she even wishes she got married sooner than she did.

I think that’s amazing! But I don’t think that’s for everyone. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with getting married young- God has a different plan for everyone. Two of my best friends got married at 20, and I can’t imagine it happening any other way. But I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with waiting to get married until you’re older. I have friends that have been married for almost a decade, and they’ve said that the first year of marriage is going to be incredibly hard no matter what – you know, “you’re never ready” – so if you’re committed to marriage and staying together, it doesn’t matter if you do it at 19 or 29.

However, I respectfully disagree. Not about the first year of marriage being hard, because I’m sure it will be. I don’t want to share my bed with anyone. Ever.

I also agree that yes, you’re probably never going to be completely ready for marriage. But I’d like to get close to ready, and there’s multiple reasons why I’m not there yet. 

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Mike’s Engaged! (Plus Pictures!)

This is my chance to pretend I have a photography blog.

My oldest friend got engaged today. I’ve been friends with Mike since the sixth grade. If you do that math, it’s nine years.That would be 45% of my life. So when he called me and asked me to take pictures when he proposed, there wasn’t even a “no” option. I was so honored that he asked me to be there to document the most important moment of his life. (Until the wedding, of course.) Image

One cool memory I have of Mike actually involves another bestie of mine (who was not my bestie at the time). He had gone to Costa Rica with the middle school on a mission trip, and when they got back, Mrs. Becker said she thought Mike would love it if I went with her to pick him up from the airport. So I hitched a ride with her and Logan, who I was not a fan of at the time. Sometimes I’m still not a fan of you, Log. Just kidding, just kidding, I like you much more now than I did when I was 12 years old. (It’s a long story, and my feelings were unfounded anyway. But I was a middle school girl, let’s cut me some slack here.) Again, it was just a moment that I was excited to be a part of. I guess it was a bit of foreshadowing for today!

Mike has always been a constant in my life. Even if we don’t talk for awhile, he’s always there if I need him. He’s trustworthy, kind, and loyal, which is why I know that Jillian is lucky to have him. I knew Mike before Jillian, and he’s a better, happier man with her. I’m so excited that I’ll never know a Mike without her in his life.

ImageWhen I met Jillian for the first time years ago, I was firstly surprised by her outer beauty: the girl is a stunner. She’s gorgeous. What’s great about Jillian is that her inner beauty manages to outshine her inner beauty. I haven’t spent a ton of time with her, but you don’t need a lot of time to figure out when someone is that legitimately genuine, sweet, and Christ-centered. I just love her. She’s one of the most adorable people in the world: you meet her and you just want to be her best friend. Mike really got lucky with this one.

Anyway, the engagement story is not mine to tell, I will leave that up to the future Mrs. and Mr. I will, however, share a few pictures from the day because they’re just so cute and wonderful. They fill my heart with happiness, and I know that they’ll do the same for anyone else that knows and loves Mike and Jillian. I can’t wait for this wedding. Check out the pictures below! Continue reading